We are a PBIS school (Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports) We give out "rockets" to kids making safe, responsible, and respectful choices. We try and re-teach when misbehavior occurs rather than going to straight to a punishment. Anyway this week I confiscated a note that had been passed back and forth between two girls. It was a horrible note, that started out with one of my favorite questions (said sarcastically), "Why aren't you being my friend?" From there the note got worse and worse and included fu....yes fu! They didn't write out the word, just fu back and forth, back and forth. (Do they even know what fu even means?) One of the girls is a stinker, most of the time. The other one is so sweet, that I was shocked to find her involved. Anyway we talked, I wrote them "minor alerts" (These are like mini-referrals) And we worked out a consequence.
I am a huge believer in trying to make consequences match actions, so we decided that each girl needed to write five kind and positive notes to five people in the class, including each other. Once they were finished, what they had to write was so sweet. They delivered their new notes and all kinds hugging ensued!
Here are some of the note contents:
You are funny and good at a lot of things. I really want to be your friend for a long time and I am sorry about the mean things I wrote to you. I hope we are in class together next year.
You are really nice to everyone. I am glad you are nice to me. When you grow up I think you will be nice still. Thank you for letting me cut you, in line. You are a good friend and you are cute.
P.S You are funny and fun to play with.
You are nice and kind. Thank you for playing with me and being my friend. You make me happy when I am sad. I like you a lot.
So now we are all happy and friendly again...13 more days to go! I am in no way ready for this
year to be over. 1) I LOVE my group of chickadees (even the ones mentioned above) and 2) I have a LOT
to do in the next two weeks!